It’s a simple concept, and it’s one of our core values here at rezora. That wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, whoever you’re with, you should try to be as fully invested and in the moment as possible. This isn’t some silly “be spontaneous” advice, in fact it’s largely the opposite for me. And while it’s much more easily said than done, with some practice you’ll learn that it’s as much of a skill as it is a concept.
I am often a worrywart. Thinking too much about that socially awkward moment from the weekend, wanting to make sure my full day is planned so I know what I can be prepared for, or letting my mind wander a bit too far while I’m in the middle of a conversation. While it might seem like all these things are working against being in the moment, over time I’ve learned that’s not entirely true.
Planning, reminiscing on fond memories and ruminating on bad ones, or simply daydreaming — these are all things I find that keep my mind healthy and happy. At times I’ve thought that they might be at odds of the goal here to live in the now, over time I’ve learned how to indulge in these activities in a healthier way. Simply put, there’s a time and a place for everything.
Enjoying a date with my wife is not the time nor place to excessively plan my work schedule for the next week. Collaborating with my colleagues is not the time to daydream. And writing this blog post is not the time to dwell on that time I told the server “You too,” after they invited me to enjoy my dinner, despite my brain’s best efforts to do all these things.
Instead, I take advantage of my downtime. In my free time, I make detailed plans so I don’t have to worry about what happens next — as long as I’m dedicating that time to do the planning, having those plans in place removes the worry later so I can more successfully be in those moments. Often, I’ll give myself time to let my mind wander, visit my past triumph and regrets, take away lessons for later, or simply remember some good times and funny moments. This kind of thing is important to me, so I make time for it. Making that time for it, in a dedicated environment, lets me appreciate it more, and helps make sure it doesn’t get in the way of other moments that are important to me too.
Eventually what I realized is, I’m not only in the moment in those “important” moments where I’m visiting with family, or writing a blog post, I’m also more in the moment when I’m daydreaming or planning or researching that topic I remembered wanting to learn more about last week.
So, to bring this full circle, I think that’s really the point of this post. If something is important to you, it’s worth it to try and make sure you’re fully present for it. Wherever you are, whether you’re seeing your family for the first time in a year and a half after quarantine and travel restrictions, or you’re sitting on your porch with nothing to do but explore your mind — do your best to give that moment the attention it deserves.
